Apologies are wonderful things.
A simple "I'm sorry"
can begin to
heal wounds,
open doors,
and
set the world in motion again.
I'm not talking about that quick
"I'm sorry"
for the
spilled milk,
a cart-bump in the store,
or
other accidents.
I'm talking about
actions that we know
at
our
deepest point
are
hurtful.
To quote Dr. Phil:
"You cannot change
what
you do not acknowledge"
That includes when we've messed up.
Sometimes,
"I am sorry"
is all that is needed to be said
Other times
we have to be more detailed
in our apology.
We have to be more detailed
because the apologizer
needs to show the
apology-receiver
that they (apologizer)
are very aware of the
hurt
that has been inflicted
One of the biggest
problems with an apology
is that we want the receiver to know
that we didn't mean to hurt them.
The problem with that is simple;
we say,
"I am sorry about [fill-in-the-blank]
but . . ."
Once we say "but"
we completely undo
"I am sorry"
Every word after
"but"
is self-defense
and
annihilates
those previous three words.
We need to learn how to apologize.
We talk about
forgiveness
but seldom about the powerful apology.
Forgiveness is beautiful;
a heart-felt apology
before
forgiveness
is
magnificent.
A simple
heart-deep
"I am sorry"
can set the world in motion
again.
forgiveness
but seldom about the powerful apology.
Forgiveness is beautiful;
a heart-felt apology
before
forgiveness
is
magnificent.
A simple
heart-deep
"I am sorry"
can set the world in motion
again.
Beautiful post. I will be the first to admit that my apologies are usually followed by that "but..."
ReplyDeletePride is an icky thing. I hope to work on my "I am sorry's" and help the world grow in love and forgiveness.
It is so hard to admit you're wrong but sometimes it's the only way. I am one who hates immediate apologies, too. Don't say "sorry" right after you've done something. Really give it some thought about why, you know?
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